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I have been a graphic designer, writer, owned and operated a pottery studio, bartended, traveled the world buying beautiful things with someone else’s money, taught math through art to kindergarten students and worked in drug & alcohol recovery. One summer during college, I worked seven days a week, twelve hours a day, as the “Brinemaster” in an industrial pea canning factory. You know, for prisons and institutions? Nothing glamorous like Birdseye or Green Giant. But, that’s another story.
I believe, I truly believe, we know who we are meant to be the moment we are born. The hitch in that giddy-up is that this was also the moment the rest of the world—our family, society, our friends—started telling us who we are supposed to be.
I knew I was different when I was five years old and enamored with the eldest son in the movie The Swiss Family Robinson. By the time I was twelve I knew what that “different” thing was. I remember praying that one day it would make some sort of sense. Otherwise it was just some sort of cruel joke or random unfortunate circumstance. It may have been the 60’s but the sex, drugs and rock and roll attitude had yet and most likely never would taint or enlighten the conservative midwestern town of 20,000 people I grew up in.
I spent years trying to be the person I was “supposed to be,” by my parents, society and most of all myself. Fear of my being who I am lead me to alcohol as the only way to cope with the feelings I had forced down inside of me. The fear and the anger and the hurt. The feeling that I was somehow inherently flawed. The certainty that I would always come in second best. Finally there wasn’t enough tequila north of the border to drown my pain, but trust me I tried.
Finally, my life became so bleak that I knew I had a problem. I was spiraling down into a dark pit of hopelessness, isolation, and fear. For the first time in my life I truly understood the meaning of the word "despair."
It’s no surprise that I found myself in the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous. Through AA, a determined soul searching and a brutally honest assessment of who I was,
but even more importantly who I wanted to become, I
climbed out of that dark and terrifying place.
It was in those rooms I heard a woman, sober several years and quite successful say,“I didn’t quit drinking to have mediocre life. I quit drinking to have a miraculous one,” and I knew that I wanted that.
I learned that if we are ever going to have any chance of
moving forward, of creating a miraculous life and becoming
the person we were meant to be, we need to learn to forgive.
We need to forgive those who held us up to the unrealistic,
unwanted and at times even impossible expectations of
“supposed to be.” It is by forgiving them for those
expectations, that we are finally able to forgive
ourselves for not measuring up to them. And it is
by forgiving ourselves that we set ourselves free
to become the me we were meant to be.
So, trust me when I say that I am aware that
things don’t always go as planned. I get it. We can’t change
the hand life dealt us, however, we do get to make choices
that will determine how that hand is played out. No
matter what our sexuality or race or religion we all
deserve to realize our dreams. We all deserve to
become the person we were meant to be.
I don’t have the answers to all of life’s questions, but
one thing I do know for sure—endings last as long as
we choose and beginnings begin as soon as we are
willing to start.
Together let’s find the courage to embrace
our true selves and share that self with the
world as we fearlessly, happily and proudly say,
“This is who I am!”
Shall we begin?
With an engaging personality and an ascerbic wit, Tom has established a presence performing on the Los Angeles comedy circuit. He honed his speaking skills as an officer of Toastmasters International, where he delivered more than one hundred speeches and has been awarded sixty first-place ribbons. His first professional speaking engagement was at
Symantec Corporation that staffs 11,000 employees nationwide.
Tom is author of, "Let's Get Naked! Reveal the Undiscovered You", a step-by-step manual to self-discovery, "I am a Very Spiritual Yet Vulgar Man", a book of original quotes, and "My Uncle's Shoes & Other Gifts-Magical and Serendipitous Stories from Everyday Life", a collection of uplifting and inspiring stories, available through Amazon.com or PayPal for a reduced price.
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Tom has been described as, “A breath of fresh air in a world where we can have difficulty catching our breath in the midst of self-doubt.”
With an engaging personality and an acerbic wit, Tom has developed a presence on the Los Angeles comedy circuit performing at the well known, World Famous Comedy Store, Hollywood Improv, and Flappers Comedy Club. He honed his speaking skills as an officer of Toastmasters International, where he delivered more than one hundred speeches and has been awarded sixty first-place ribbons. His first professional speaking engagement was at Symantec Corporation that staffs 11,000 employees nationwide.
Tom’s passion energizes and inspires audiences to take transformative control of their lives, and to become visionaries of their own future. He has made his mark as an enthusiastic, authentic, humorous and compassionate speaker and author. He inspires audiences to take actionable steps to turn their “someday dreams” into reality.
Chasing one of his own “someday dreams,” very possibly during a mid-life crisis, Tom decided to spread his wings and move from his hometown of Milwaukee, Wisconsin to Los Angeles. Well aware of the cliché, he bought a convertible and drove west until he hit the ocean, and landed in Venice Beach.
With enthusiasm, humor and compassion, Tom inspires others to face their demons, identify their dreams, set goals and live miraculous lives.
Take a ride on a journey of self-self-discovery and never look back—ever.
• Accept, embrace & celebrate everything that you are.
• Overcome hurdles holding you back
• Learn to see past facades and embrace your
• Create a road map to becoming a more genuine you.
• Take a personal inventory and begin to realize your unlimited potential.
• Explore how powerful and life changing our minds can be.
• Identify obstacles of your own creation and eliminate them.
• Learn to see all of life as an opportunity.
• Learn to discover your gifts and talents
• Explore how powerful and life changing our minds can be.
Tom’s message of self-empowerment and self-discovery resonate with a wide variety of audiences. He is happy to consider events across the country for your high school, college, church, corporate, or other event.
Life is a journey of self-discovery and we need to do our best to see the beauty in ourselves and everything and everyone around us. We need to learn to celebrate everything that we are. Hold nothing back. Give everything we can to become the best ‘me’ we can be. We need to learn to love ourselves enough to be courageous enough to stand out in a crowd and not shrink back. To love ourselves so much that the love overflows into the lives of others and changes them and helps them become the best ‘me’ that they can be.
Be the love and the joy and the magic that you are looking for in life. And I want you to believe that you can. Whatever it is. You can. In fact, you must. Because whether you know it or not, the rest of the world is out there waiting for you to be the best me that you can be. This world needs brave people who are true and honest and authentic.
Step out of the shadows and into your own power and you will shine, holding a confident, contented knowing as you step up to your life and we say to the world, as you speak the words, the simple words that hold neither pride nor fear nor shame, the simple words, “This is who I am.”
“If we are busy listening to the rest of the world tell us what we are suppose to do and who we are suppose to be, we miss out on the Universe telling each and every one of us just how incredibly amazing we already are.”
"Working with Tom was a comfortable, fun and enlightening way for me to get clear on goals and obstacles I've created that get in the way. His straightforward tactics, blended with kindness, and just the right dosage of "new agey-ness" was what I needed to create a game plan for myself with built in motivational stop measures.
Gary McCarthy-Educator & Entrepreneur
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